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Sunday, August 5, 2012

Christians and Tolerance - 2

Having defined what tolerance is and where it is needed and what we cannot tolerate, we now turn our attentions to some godly attitudes in dealing with those we disagree with (both as brethren and outside the body).

I.                    Godly attitudes toward those you disagree with, including the ungodly –

a.        STAND UP for what is right!  Fight for His cause!
We need courage -1 Cor. 16:13 – stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.
Rev. 2:10, the church at Ephesus was told to not fear.
Matt. 10:28, Don’t fear man that can only kill the body, rather fear God, who can cast into hell.
Eph. 6:13-14 – stand with “the gospel armor” equipping you.

b.       In the name of tolerance, do NOT:

                                                   i.      Compromise the truth!  NEVER sell out what God’s word says.  Far too many today will change their convictions in order to be “less offensive”, especially when it becomes personal – i.e. MDR, unfaithful family members, maybe even homosexuality, etc.

                                                  ii.      Ignore the issues – bury our head in the sand. Oftentimes, brethren say nothing while God and His word are maligned.  We CANNOT do that!  Problems NEVER go away when you simply ignore them!  They usually fester and get worse!  The apathy of our society (and some of churches) is testimony to this truth!

                                                iii.      Retaliate – when the ungodly malign you and treat you hatefully, don’t get in the mud and wrestling with them.  Keep yourself pure!  We will see this as we examine the godly attitude!

c.        Realize that there is a difference between sin and the sinner.  And depending on the sinner determines how we deal with them (we deal with sinning brethren differently than unbelievers – cf. 1 Cor. 5:9-11, 2 Thess. 3:14-15).    
This is where the confusion often comes in – on both sides!  Sometimes we are accused of hate, when we are simply standing upon our convictions.  But sometimes, because we detest sinful conduct so much, we take it out on the sinner with ungodly attitudes!  That is what we need to avoid!

d.       Realize the eternal destiny of that soul and act accordingly! – 1 Cor. 6:9, Rev. 21:8, Gal. 5:19-21, etc.  The grip that sin has on the lives of the worldly ought to grieve us. 
And as such, like Paul, we need to look for opportunities to teach them – 2 Cor. 5:11, 1 Cor. 9:19, 22 – all things to all men!  Also 1 Cor. 10:32-33.
Jesus also set this example.  In Matt. 20:26-28, Jesus teaching His disciples to be humble and serve one another said, “Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”

e.       Some passages (rules) to consider:

                                                   i.      Matt. 10:16 - Be wise as serpents, harmless as doves.  Jesus speaks of sending out His disciples, as sheep in the midst of wolves.  His instructions were to be alert (sly) and think through what you say and do, yet strive to accomplish your goal with the least amount of damage. 
Paul said in Col. 4:5-6,Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time.  Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how to answer each one.  In this text, Paul tells us to use wisdom and THINK before you speak. 
AN example of this is found in the events of this past week.  A gospel preacher made some suggestions in dealing with protesters at Chick-fil-a if you see them.  He said:

1.       DON’T be hateful and yell

2.       Offer to buy them something (do good to others, even the ungodly)

3.       Ask them if they will sit down and talk with you.  Seeking to engage in REAL conversation.

4.       Ask if they will allow you to explain your views:

5.       Ask questions with kindness.  For example (with same-sex marriage debate): Should there be boundaries with marriage at all?  What about marrying animals or children?  If they say such is wrong, then they have acknowledged boundaries!
Ask, should opposition be equated to hatred?   If they say “no”, ask, “Then why are we being accused of hate?”  If they say, “yes”, ask, “Are you not admitting that you hate us?

                                                  ii.      Eph. 4:2 – “I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love…”  Yes, Paul is here speaking of the way brethren are to treat one another, but the attitude would apply in dealing with all
(BTW, one reason I am presenting these lessons is because I see the need for application of these things AS BRETHREN in dealing with our differences).

                                                iii.      Matthew 7:12 – the golden rule.  ALWAYS think of this before you speak or act against someone!  How would you want to be treated if “the shoe were on the other foot”?  Be honest!   NOTE: WE are not saying to act in kind as they have treated you, but as you WOULD WANT to be treated in that circumstance.  How many problems could be resolved or prevented if we would just keep this in mind.

                                                iv.      1 Cor. 13:1-7 – just a simple reading of this gives qualities we need in all that we do -
 Long-suffering, kindness, no arrogance, no rudeness, no self-seeking praise, bearing and believing all things, etc.

                                                  v.      1 Pet. 3:8-12 – a good summary of our conduct!

                                                vi.      Rom. 12:18-21 - Let God render final judgment!

f.         As we can see, there are MANY passages and principles to apply when we deal with those of the world, especially when confronted about our faith!

 

Do NOT get me wrong!  One’s sinful behavior does NOT condone a hateful (i.e. unloving) response!

Friends, souls are dying every day that will spend eternity separated from God.   It will be agonizing and tragic.  It will happen because of sin (Rom. 6:23).  The only thing that can free one from those sins is the blood of Jesus that is revealed in His word (John 8:32).  If we see a soul in danger of eternal condemnation, we ought to do what we can to deliver that soul from such a terrible fate (2 Cor. 5:11).  You do NOT do that by preaching “tolerance.”  You do that by preaching and living the truth (Matt. 5:16).  Let us stand with God and let “the chips fall where they may.